You are not married to that person, and anyone on the planet can comment or read your posts and if they want to add to your troubles, they can post terrible things in response.
He's the young apprentice or student.
They were, as many pieces of art are, a reflection on a moment, or a collection of moments, from the eyes, the heart, the mind of a real human being.
At a very initial stage, find a way to have a discussion with the girl alone.
Advice to control them please.
I wanted to try to assure you that I do not even remember things with the men I was with before my husband.
I'm sure that anybody who reads this will think I'm a lunatic, but I can see where it makes sense.
There are things which are pre assumed by both sides, I told her that I smoked occasionally voluntarily, guys who smoke are not welcomed with open hands.
What an irony!